"If It Looks, Sounds, And Acts Like A Duck, It's Probably A Duck"
- Deanisha
- Jan 25, 2018
- 3 min read
Sooooo, I'm sure that most of you who are reading have heard the statement, "if it looks and quacks like a duck then it's probably a duck." I'm sure you have also heard the statement, "if a person shows you who they are then believe them." Both statements are true and are jammed pack with meaning. In my experience, people are who they show you they are regardless of the potential you see. In many cases, we see people for the potential and promise they have and ignore that potential is potential and not reality. Yes, it is true that the person can develop into something else, but the honest truth is that they haven't just yet. So, instead of moving on, we end up giving the person chance after chance. Those chances end up leading to frustration and disappointment. So, my question is why do we continue to touch the fire when we know it's hot?
When little kids are growing up, they learn by trial and error. For example, if they touch something hot, they won't touch it a second or third time because they first time they were burned and it wasn't a good feeling. So, if a little kid gets the concept, then why as adults do we allow the same people who have hurt us to enter our personal space. Why are we so forgiving and willing to give second, third, fourth, and fifth chances? Why do we allow potential to blind us from reality? Why are we still dealing with the same issues or people that have proved themselves over and over? To be honest, I really can't give you a solid answer to those questions, but I can tell you that I am guilty of it. On numerous occasions, people have shown me who they are, but guess what? I have ignored it. I still attempted to call the person a friend and give them access to my life only to be disappointed again.
Over the years, I have learned that relying on what a person could be, should be, or would be only leads to being hurt, disappointed, and confused. I have also learned that everyone does not deserve to be in your personal space. Allowing people into my personal space after being hurt, disappointed, or betrayed has only lead to more damage. It has left a bigger mess that I was left to clean up. After hurt and more hurt and disappointment after disappointment, I have started to take people for who they are and what they show me. I have accepted that some people don't realize their potential, which means that they may never reach it. Most importantly, it is not up to me to make them realize that. I am only responsible for myself and being responsible means protecting myself from the chaos and hurt the person may cause.
So, I challenge you to start being aware of the people you allow in your personal space and circle. If a person shows you who they really are, believe them. Stop making excuses for other's behavior. It doesn't matter that they have potential because potential doesn't always become a reality. Don't get caught in a cycle of being hurt and betrayed because you are continuously permitting someone to enter your personal space when they don't deserve to. So, remember this if you don't remember anything else, if it looks and quacks like a duck, it's a duck so believe it and move on.
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