Are you setting a trap for yourself?

Have you ever been so busy building a trap for someone until you didn't realize that you were creating a trap for yourself? You were making sure everything was perfect, not knowing that you would be the one to fall into the trap. Sounds crazy, right? I know, but that's what we often do until it's too late and we're trapped in our own trap.

Sadly, people will plot, scheme, and attempt to set traps for other people only to fall in them. I'm guilty of it and have witnessed it happen on so many different occasions. We are normally fixated on paying the person back, getting the best of someone, or making the person hurt and suffer. Our fixation turns into pure hatred, which is not beneficial to you or anyone involved. Through experience, I have learned that my attempts to hurt someone only leads to me being hurt in the end. Trust me when I say hurting people does not bring peace or a resolution. It only affects you negatively and more than likely it will not affect the other person at all.

I had to learn that it wasn't my responsibility to punish adults. I am only responsible for myself and my five year old son. No matter how the "mommy" in me wanted to make people go to time out or to give that person an old fashioned "spanking", I couldn't because the person wasn't my responsibility. This didn't mean that I had to go along with the wrong that they were doing. I could stand up for what was right and even tell them that their actions were wrong. However, my job was to lead by example and to allow God to deal with that person and their wrongdoing. Who am I to decide the fate of the other person? Wouldn't I be just as wrong and evil if I started setting traps to expose the person or to make them fail? I know it's a tough place to be in, but remember you can't change people and you definitely don't want to get caught building a trap for yourself.

On the flip side, remember that those people who think they are creating traps for you and others, will one day fall in that nicely prepared trap. I know that you have encountered and may be dealing with a person or people who seem to take pride in bringing misery on other people. It may even seem like the person is getting away with all of their evil ways, but trust when I say that they are not. One day they will have to see and live with all of the evil and chaos that they caused. You never know, one day you may be the person's boss. But, don't focus on what will happen to the person. Focus on what you are doing good and the positive things that you can learn from the situation. Let me tell you a little secret/trick of mine. When I am in a negative situation with a negative person, I use that situation and person as a self-evaluating tool. I look at how I may be similar and decide how I will make changes accordingly. I know it sounds crazy, but trust me you will surprised at how we have similarities with other people. I have learned to be a better person and leader from the worse people and leaders.

"Dealing with negative situations and people is your Que to do some self evaluating and self improvements."

So, remember, leave the trap making to God. Stop focusing on the other person and focus on you and what you are doing right. Use the time to make yourself better and to polish and develop your skills. God will slay your slay your giants. He'll handle those evil doers and if he wants you to handle them, he'll give you the tools and power and you won't have to break a sweat. So, remember the traps are for God. You never want to fall in your own trap.

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